Are you a real or pseudo listener? Do you want to stop pseudo listening?
Listening is more than being quiet. We have all caught ourselves pseudo listening. We are at greatest risk of doing this to the ones we love.
If you are listening, really listening, then you will have one of these four intentions…
We all are guilty of not listening at times. What can be done to correct this?
If you want to improve your relationships, learn to really listen.
Start by asking if you really want to improve your listening, especially to someone you care about? If you do….
Stop Pseudo Listening by Learning to Listen
Here is how it works. Follow these easy steps.
Improve Your Listening
Identify Your Listening Fail Who
Who do you not listen to? Who are you most likely to have listening fail with? Who will you tend to pseudo listen to? Here is a list to help.
Family at Home
Relatives Outside Home
Identify Your Listening Fail Why
Listening fail starts with intention. What is your lack of intention?
It has been said that love is not love unless it is given away. Caring is not caring unless it is shared with another. If you love and care about the person you are experiencing listening fail with, it is important to consider your intention.
Who do I listen to the best
Which people am I more likely to have listening fail with?
So ask: What is it that makes me listen to or not listen?
When Listening Fail is Not Your Failure
People have a number of unique characteristics that can challenge to our listening.
For someone who has a problem getting to the point in a seemingly rambling string of thoughts, it can be difficult to truly listen. Yet, it is possible to avoid listening fail.
Some may find the absolute worse time to speak to us. You know, the pipes have just broken, water is spraying everywhere and they want to discuss something with you.
Using the principles of the law of attraction, give before you want. Listen with out any reservations. Focus on learning how to listen better, even with someone who is a challenge to listen to.
Use the when you, I feel, I need formula.
It would go something like this...When you come to speak with me and you have not thought out what it is you want to say, I become very frustrated. I am sorry but I do. I need you to think about what it is that you want with a formulated thought and express it clearly.
Choose For Your Best Chance of Success
Choose one person from the list above. Choose the one person you would have the best chance of succeeding with.
Focus on listening when with them. If you find yourself pseudo-listening, bring your focus back to giving them your undivided attention.
With each time you listen, ask yourself what was your intention? Were you listening to…
As you do this, you will not only improve your listening with the person you have listening fail with, you will find that you start to listen better to everyone.
This is only one way to stop pseudo listening.
Like the air we breathe, we can take the gift of listening for granted. Become a real listener and stop pseudo listening.
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